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Tuesday, May 12, 2015

Yes, I Did It


 


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         Talking about myself isn't easy; especially because I was born and raised in a country which considers women inferior. I was born and raised in Mexico, a beautiful country that I love and respect but, also the same country that has a sexist society. Mexico is a country where the male is always the leader and he is the one who gives orders and the woman must obey. Even though as a little girl I heard that women are worthless, as a child I always knew that this idea was not true. I have always believed in the equality of genders. Men and woman are equal and have the same rights.

        I believe that education is power. Education is the only way that people can improve their quality of life. Unfortunately for many people it's not always possible to achieve access to education, at least not in my country. As a child I dreamed of one day studying to be a doctor or a lawyer, in fact I still maintain this dream. I know in my heart that someday I'll make it. This is the real reason that I never give up. Even if the circumstances were not the best in my childhood, I have put my best effort in my school grades.

        The highest honor for any student in Mexico is marching with the flag. I earned this honor for my excellent grades. I was very happy to see my name on the wall of the smartest students. When I was a child, it was a pleasure to do my homework instead of going out to play with my friends. Even though I was very proud of my school successes, sometimes I felt sad and lonely because my parents never supported me or gave me any compliment. I still got my best academic effort until one day.........

        I had just finished the tenth grade and it was dinner  time.  We were all together and my father told my mother it was very difficult to maintain five children and send to school so, he had decided that one of us had to leave school. When he said my name I felt the world was falling on me.  It was terrible, I felt miserable. My dreams and illusions  were broken at that moment. Everything I had fought was gone. I still remember with tears in my eyes when I asked him why me; his answer was worse. He said that women are not important like men, so they don't deserve the right to go to school. That was the last time my father allowed me to talk about it; and at that same time I knew that my fate was uncertain.

        My fate was uncertain until September 2010; when I made the best decision in my life: To start studying at Mercy Learning Center. MLC is a non-profit organization that helps low-income women to get access to education. Every year more than eight hundred woman come to study at this school. The school is supported by donations. They are always looking for tutors, volunteers and donors. MLC taught me to read, write and speak in English, that was a new language for me.  At the beginning it was a challenge for me to learn a new language. But such was my hunger to excel that, step by step I was gaining the power of knowledge.  The National External Diploma was my big opportunity to get my High School Diploma. NEDP is a special program offered in MLC to people who have a high score on their CASAS tests. I finished the program in six months, displaying Science, Math, History, Grammar and computer program skills; finally on December 17, 2014, I got my precious reward- my High School Diploma.

         Like flash lights, many memories came to my mind at that moment. Memories of my childhood when some people told me that I was worthless for the simple fact of being a woman. Memories of my father saying that school was over for me. Finally the spell was broken. It was broken with the key of knowledge and hope, with the key of my own pain. I cried, I cried a lot, but now my tears were of joy and hope. Now I realized that I always had the right. I will not let myself say otherwise because, now I have the proof: My High School Diploma and my college entrance. At the same time I took and successfully completed my Certified Nursing Assistant program with excellent grades. Now I'm sure I'll be able to begin my career in a few years. I'm ready for this big challenge, why? because now I feel stronger, happy, sure of myself. Now I'm sure that dreams are fulfilled for people who dream and work hard to achieve. It was possible for me. Now I can say yes, I did it!

Thursday, April 16, 2015

Red Roses For My Grandmother

Red Roses For My Grandmother



         Children always need to have a super-hero in their lives. For most children, their parents are their super- heroes, in my particular case it was my grandmother. My parents were always busy working, so my grandma was the one who was in charge of raising my siblings and me. My grandmother was a survivor, strong and hardworking woman regardless of her circumstances.

         My grandmother's life was very sad. When she was a little girl, in just four years her mother had two boys. My grandmother's father died when her mother was pregnant. My grandmother's mother had no money  or resources to support her three children; so she decided to give my grandmother up for adoption. The nightmare for my grandma started that day.

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         My grandmother was given up for adoption to a rich family. It was family that promised to care and love her. Instead it was a miserable family who abused her, a helpless and innocent little girl, physically and emotionally; almost like a slave. Ever since my grandmother came to live in that house, she was treated like a servant not like an adoptive daughter. She never ate at the main table as the rest of the family. Her place to eat was always in the kitchen with the rest of the servants.

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        When my grandmother turned seven years old, she was sent to work for the first time to the fields instead of going to school and learning like any other kid. For this reason she never learned how to read and write.  She was forced to wake up at four in the morning and work until seven P.M. For many years she worked in unacceptable conditions. When she was twenty-five years old, she was forced to get married to a unknown man who was about twenty years older than her. She had no choice and she married that man without any type of feelings, and she had three children, my mother and her two siblings.  If at any time my grandmother thought she  could get some freedom, she was wrong, very wrong. At that age  she was very ill. The last years of forced labor were paying off. This was the true reason that she was forced to get married; because her best years had been passed. 

Image result for grandma images         My grandfather turned out to be an evil man. He hit my grandmother every day. Her suffered body was covered with scars. My grandfather was an alcoholic who didn't work, so my grandmother had to continue working to support her family still even sick. When she was pregnant with her last child, one day my grandfather hit her so much that she gave birth to a premature baby boy with  serious brain damage. The baby died a few days later. My grandmother suffered so much, that she thought about suicide; but could further the love for her children more than despair and pain that she felt. Suddenly one day everything changed..........

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        One day my grandfather didn't return home. My grandmother knew the reason months later, when he  came to home just to snatch the few belongings that she had. He told her very sarcastic that he was in love with another young woman. He wanted to know nothing more about  her and her children. My grandma didn't say anything,  just closed her eyes and held her breath until he left. That day she promised she would never allow abuses against her. Again she fulfilled it.

Image result for grandma clip art         Over the years, she raised her children alone, like many single mothers. She fought against her diseases. She never gave up, and she taught me never to do it. She took the right decision to move us, when she noticed that my siblings and I  really needed her care. She was my best example of courage and determination. She was like my mother. She was my counselor and confidant. Unfortunately, her life was running out.

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          Long, long ago in Mexico my grandmother told me, "what wonderful flowers, are in my garden.""when I die, I want those same flowers in my funeral."I replied "please grandma, don't say that.""you will never die." Deep in my heart I knew that day was going to come. As a child my favorite flowers are the red roses, like my grandma. Until that day every year when it was my grandma's birthday I always bought a beautiful bunch of red roses for her. I still love red roses and think about her. 

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        I still remember the day before my grandma died. I went to her house to visit. She was sitting in her favorite chair. I cooked a chicken soup for her. She was sleeping and I was standing behind her. I watched her with love and melancholy. I asked myself what I would do without her. She was my everything,  and there was nothing in the world I loved more than her. When she finally woke up, She smiled and said "when I die the image that I'm want to take in my mind is your face." At that moment I felt an immense cold in my heart. I answered "don't worry when this will happen I will be eighty years old. We both smiled. "I need to go grandma" "take care" I said. I walked few steps, suddenly I felt the  need to hug her, and I did.   "grandma I love you so much" "you never forget" I told to her.  She said "I love you too my lovely daughter" "I will love you forever, please don't forget my red roses" I said "no, I never would forget your red roses grandma, I promise." That was the last time that I spoke and saw her. She died the next day. That day was too dark and sad to me, the terrible and sad day when I lost my beloved grandmother. Even now I still hate the cloudy and dark days, but I still continue loving the red roses. I'm still loving and remembering my beautiful and suffered angel.
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Thursday, March 26, 2015

My Little-Big Sister Sarah

                            My Little-Big Sister Sarah

 

        Few things in life are as pleasant as having a family. In my particular case, my family was, is and will be the most important thing in my life. I was born into a large family, three sisters and two brothers, mom, dad and my grandma were my whole world. My family had economic needs, but when my siblings and I were kids we were very happy.

           I'm the eldest of my sisters; I always protected them, but  sometimes they protected me also, especially my little sister Sarah. Sarah is the fourth of my five siblings, she was a frail and sickly girl.  When I was a child I thought that my sister Sarah was the favorite daughter of my parents because they gave special care to her, I felt jealous of my sister Sarah but also I felt love for her.        

          One day when I was playing with my friends, my sister Sarah asked me if she could play with us, I said yes even that I known my friends didn't like her. She played with all of us that afternoon and she enjoyed spending time with us. The same day at  dinner time, I saw that my mother was angry. When finally I asked her what was wrong she told me that she was very upset with me because I didn't let my sister play, I felt surprised because it was a lie, a really big lie. I tried to explain to my mother that my sister Sarah was lying but she didn't believed me, after that my resentment towards my sister increased.

        I was planning my revenge carefully for a long time. The opportunity came one day, I was playing with my sisters in my Godmother's house, suddenly my sister Lorena asked to my Godmother's daughter which one of us looked more like my mother, She responded that it was me, and none of them seemed like my parents. My sister Lorena didn't gave any importance to the comment and she was continued playing, but not my sister Sarah,  she was standing and still thinking about it until I  went up to her and asked "Sarah you know why you don't look like our parents?'' Her answer was  no and I said "Honey, you're so innocent. Is easy to know the reason that you don't look like my parents it's because you're ADOPTED.

                   

        My sister Sarah was in shock. She opened her eyes, her mouth and she fainted.  I was scared, even though I was angry with her I never expected such reaction at that moment. I realized that I did misbehaved, I just wanted my sister Sarah to react. I called my Godmother  and when she came she helped my sister to reacted. She asked my sister that what had happened. My sister did not answer, just stared at me. I knew then my sister would tell my mother what happened  and what a terrible punishment my consequence would be, but it did not...

        Later, when my mother was picking us up, my mother asked to my sister Sarah how she felt, she responded "don't worry mom, I'm perfectly fine" I was astonished. I was alarmed trying to guessed what she was planning against me. So, I took the plunge and asked her "Sarah why you don't tell our parents what really happened?." I will never forget what she answered me.

        "I know that you hate me" she said, "maybe it's my fault because I have not been a good sister, I know  you lied about that I'm adopted Today's incident helped me to realized that I don't want that my siblings hate me, I forgive you, Because I love you sister." Although  was a child at that moment I understood the meaning of the brotherhood and I felt wretched. I hugged to my sister Sarah and I apologized. I told her how sorry I was and how much I love her. I said "please forgive me, I promise to be a good sister." She said "Yes sister." We cried a lot, we promised forget that incident and we fulfill it. Since then we have a close relationship. 

        Have passed many years and many things were happened. Now, my sister Sarah is a nun. She has traveled worldwide. She learned four languages. Right now she lives in Angola Africa. She is dedicating her life to serving to the less fortunate. Many times she been almost about to die, from the terrible diseases that are existing in Africa, but now she is a strong, loving and dedicated woman. The weak and sickly girl is not existing more. She is my example of charity and kindness. I'm so proud of my little-big sister Sarah. The little girl who gave me a lesson that changed my life forever.




Friday, March 20, 2015

My First and Last Birthday Party


                My First and Last Birthday Party

Image result for girls birthday parties imagesThe month was June. It was a really hot day. I could see the air floating, but there was no wind. It had been windy before but not now. I was playing with my friends outside of my house. They were my neighborhood friends, I had known them since I was born.


       


        It was a special day. The reason was because It was my birthday. I took my five years old. I felt thirsty and I went to the kitchen to drink some water. I saw a cake. A beautiful and delicious cake was on the kitchen table. I knew it was for me. It was my special day. I was very excited because it was my first birthday party. I never had a birthday party before.

        Like many kids of my age, I wanted to have a birthday party. I dreamt of having a big party with a wonderful dress and a beautiful cake. I was a little girl but, I had already began to realize many things, including that money was scarce in my home.

        I'm the second of five siblings. I have two brothers and two sisters. My big brother is four years older then me. (he is my hero). He was my babysitter when I was a baby. My parents had always worked and hardly had time for us. There were difficult times for my parents to maintain five kids. There were not enough money for parties or special celebrations. So when I discovered the cake in the kitchen I felt surprised.Image result for girls birthday parties images


        It was hard for me to return to play with my friends and pretend that I did not know anything about the cake. An hour later my mother called me inside of the house to take a bath. When I finished my shower my mother came to my room. She was holding a gorgeous pink dress for me. I was in shock; I thought I was dreaming. My parents and my siblings gathered around the cake, waiting for me in the kitchen. When I entered to the kitchen they began to sing the happy birthday song.


        I couldn't believe it. Finally my dream came true. Everything was as I always dreamt it. Tears fell down my face. They were tears of joy and gladness. Since then every year when it was my birthday, I remember the day with happiness and sadness. That day I was so happy that even now as a grown woman I still remember with love and wistfulness my first and last birthday party.

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Tuesday, March 3, 2015

Following a Dream

Following a Dream

           Like many people, I came to the United States, in search of the American Dream. It is the dream that many immigrants believe to be true; the dream that all people can have happy  and successful lives if they work hard. Coming to the United States was the hardest decision in my life. I thought about the idea carefully.  I made a mental list of all the pros and the cons to decide if I should move to United States. The simple idea of  leaving family, friends and country was terrible and scary to me. When the day came to say goodbye I cried a lot, it was a traumatic moment. Ten years later I'm still crying.

        Before I arrived, my husband was preparing for our arrival. He had spent two years working, finding a new home, and learning English. My daughter and I arrived in a new world we had a new country. We left our family behind, we felt alone, and sometimes lonely. I had to learn the language, the traditions and the neighborhood along with new people. The change in my new life was so hard and I got depressed.

        For many years I did not know why I felt sad, some days were full of sadness. Other days seemed endless. I did not know how to deal with these feelings. Finally one day, I found an article in a magazine. This article was describing my feelings. I finally understood that I needed medical assistance. The diagnosis was depression and anxiety. I have had therapy, group therapy and some medications over the years. I'm  a work in progress.

        While all this was happening, I was continued taking care of my daughter. Fortunately, the changes were best for her. She went to Middle School, and then she went to high school and graduated with honors. Right now she is a sophomore in college. I'm very proud of her. She is my great strength.

       I decided I needed to study; I needed to speak, read and write English. I started school in September 2010. Before coming to school my vision of life was completely different than what it is now. For the last five years, day after day, bit by bit, something has been changing in me, in my life, in my family life, something good! Now I get it! I have regained confidence in myself! I graduated with a High School equivalency. The courses were difficult. I took years to finish. My hard work and dedication paid off. Now I'm a college student. I realize that I needed to continue studying to improve my life and be a good example for my beloved children.

        Now, the future looks hopeful. Now I know that my strength is in myself. Even though ten years later I'm still crying when I remember my family, I'm very proud of all my accomplishments. I can do everything because I'm strong. I'm powerful. I'm happy. I'm a new person.